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Wife
Julius Agwu is one of Nigeria's
most successful entertainers.
He got married to his wife,
Ibiere, in 2008,and they are
blessed with a girl and
expecting the second baby
soon. The couple takes us
through their journey into
marriage. Happy reading…
How I met my wife
I met my wife at a wedding in
Port-Harcourt in 2000. She was
part of the bridal train. My mind
was blown away when I sighted
her. Thereafter, we became
friends. Somehow, we lost
contact with each other and
later, met again in 2002. The
rest is history. We got married
in 2008.
Courtship
We dated for eight years. This
is because her parents insisted
that she must complete her
education. After her Youth
Service, they insisted she had
to enroll for her master's
degree program. And I kept
waiting for her.
Julius Agwu and wife
When you court your spouse,
that's when you understand
yourselves better. You find out
what she likes and what she
doesn't; her shortcomings as
well as yours and find a way to
blend with her. Some
marriages are having problems
today because of the inability
of the couple to bring God into
it. These are two people from
different backgrounds coming
together to live as husband and
wife. I am very temperamental
and my wife too is a stubborn
woman. But in spite of these
shortcomings, we have learnt
to manage our issues.
Attraction
She's not only beautiful, she is
also intelligent. We connected
immediately. She combines
beauty and brain. I realise
she's something different. It's
not every lady you dated that
you can propose to. Not every
date can lead to marriage
because God created every
man and created a wife for
that particular man. God also
created every woman and
created a husband for that
woman. That two people dated
does not mean that they must
become husband and wife.
Your prayer should be that
nobody should marry your own
wife or husband. That's how
we connected.
Ready for marriage
Yes, at some point, I was ready
to marry her but her parents
delayed our marriage. W hen I
first met her, I was not ready to
marry her. Then, I was trying to
build a career, but by the time
she was finishing school, I was
ready to take her to the altar.
Like I said earlier, her parents
insisted she had to complete
her education.
Accepting marriage proposal
From the outset, she likes me.
But when I first met her, she
was about 18 years and she
was giving me an attitude. I
wasn't patient as I got angry. I
didn't want to beg anybody .
This went on until 2002, when I
lost my father and we ran into
each other again.
Coincidentally, that was her
birthday. He got connected
again. She came with her
friends and we hung out that
night. We exchanged our
contact again and renewed our
love for each other.
5 years after
It has not been easy. Marriage
can be funny. When it is sweet,
it is sweet, and when you
quarrel with your spouse, it
looks as if that is the end of the
marriage. But my attitude has
always been that no two
marriages can be the same.
That has been my style. You
may quarrel, keep malice but
the most important thing is that
I have decided to spend the
rest of my life with her, for
better and for worse until
death do us apart.
Advice to young couple
It's just that whatever you do in
life, you need to hold onto God.
At any point, married couples
need God to mediate in their
marriages. Problem starts
when they allow third party to
interfere in their marriage. We
are in an era where a lot of
marriages are hitting the rock.
It's not about celebrities alone,
it's also happening in other
professions. Because we are in
the public eye, people easily
notice when there is a crack in
a marriage involving a
celebrity.
Female fans
My wife understands the kind
of business that I do. I have an
understanding wife and I know
where to draw the line. That's
the truth.
Strength of marriage
God has been the bedrock of
our marriage. That
understanding that we both
share; understanding of each
other's temperament and
shortcomings has been made
possible by God.
Before I met my wife
I dated other girls before I met
my wife. That's why I said
when two people dated, it does
not mean that they must get
married. I had one or two girl
friends who were on the line
then. But it did not work out for
us. I prayed for God's direction
and He directed me to my wife.
What I dislike about my wife
My wife is not as loving as I
would have wanted her to be.
There's what we call display of
public affection, she does not
give me that. That's one thing I
don't like about her. May be,
it's because she's an introvert.
Sometimes,I get scared
because of her quietness.
Love in marriage
Love is the foundation upon
which marriage is built. That's
why I said earlier that it's
sweet when it's sweet. But
when you quarrel with your
spouse, it looks as if you have
become sworn enemies.
Sometimes,hardship forms part
of the reasons most marriages
crash in our society. But it is
only when trials set in, that
husband and wife are expected
to show understanding to each
other.
That's when truly love counts.
If you love your spouse right
from the out set,you should be
able to make sacrifices. Every
relationship depends on what
you put into it. While I was in
the university, I propounded a
theory of relationship known as
"PUT". "PUT" stands for
Patience, Understanding and
Tolerance. These three factors
must be presence in your
relationship with your wife,
children, parents,siblings and
even with God.
I didn't take him seriously —
Wife
How we met
It was at a wedding ceremony
in Port-Harcourt. When he
proposed to me ,I did not take
him seriously.
Stronghold of my marriage
God, and believing in each
other.
Attraction
I really do not know what
attracted me to him. We were
friends for a while, before we
later got married.
Female fans snatching him
That means he does not belong
to me. I'm not scared,
instead,he should be the one to
be scared. If he allows them to
do so, that means he does not
belong to me.
How I see my husband
He can be funny but at the
same time, he's annoying. He
knows how to get me annoyed.
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